Man cannot discover new oceans unless he has the courage to lose sight of the shore.Andre Gide
In life, change is inevitable. Seasons change. People change. Weather changes and relationships, no matter how dear we hold them are subject to change. Making a positive change in life is exciting but also laden with challenges.
Transition and life changes often involve leaving familiar surroundings and people and moving into the unknown. It is natural to feel a sense of loss and express anxiety about what lies ahead.
On a personal note, I felt this way, when I relocated to North America, first to the United States and then to Canada from Nigeria, my country of birth
Having gone through such a significant transition and others, including a career change, I have some tips to share about making such a transition meaningful and using it as a pedestal for further growth.
Discover and prepare for your new environment.
But the LORD God called to the man, Where are you? (Genesis 3:9)
As you go through a transition and significant life change, you will be challenged by your new environment. Don’t despair; make a conscious effort to discover and familiarize yourself with your new location.
As part of this discovery, strive to develop and deploy your God-given gifts and talents to alleviate the challenges posed by your new environment. The contemporary global economy provides limitless opportunities for those that are intellectually prepared.
Use what worked in the past
Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. (1 Samuel 17:36)
Your past experiences are crucial in managing a transition to a new life. Don’t waste them
You have probably experienced other periods of transition in your life. For example, you may have coped with a serious illness, left home, gotten married, changed jobs or had a child. Think about what you did that helped you cope and focus on the positive side of those experiences.
Are your friends an Elevator or a Cage?
One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin,
but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (Proverbs 18:24)
Watch very carefully your social influence. Avoid negative people that will kill your enthusiasm for change and the progress you are making. Many people fear change, and your attempt to change your life for the better is perceived as a threat. Ask yourself which of your friends will be able to handle the new you once you’ve completed the transition? Will you still be able to be friends after the change? Close, genuine friendships can handle such a transition. But many casual friendships and associations cannot and as such, avoid them.
Motivate yourself for success
David asked the men standing near him, What will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes this disgrace from Israel? Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?(1 Samuel 17:26)
Seasons of change bring numerous challenges. At such times, focus on the rewards that change brings and not the obstacles. Continue to motivate yourself for success as you move along. Never allow your past to hold you back. Admittedly, we are products of our past, but they must never imprison us.
Seek a word from the Lord
Your word is a lamp for my feet,a light on my path. (Psalm 119:105)
The word of God is a jewel of inestimable value and as such, should be our guide in a season of change. We are too immature as human beings to proceed on a journey as delicate as a transition to a new life without allowing the word of God to be a lamp for our feet and a light on our path.
Above all, God’s word builds our faith and provides encouragement as we encounter difficulties and challenges posed by transition and life changes.
In conclusion, as you progress from one stage of life to another, remain encouraged as your best days are just ahead of you. God bless you!